Handling fear and uncertainty can cause a lot of stress for everyone and creates tension in our relationships. Although the holidays are idealized as a happy and joyful time for one and all, the reality may be quite different. Money concerns, absence of family and/or friends or painful memories can contribute to feelings of sadness, anger, hopelessness or fear.
Here are some heartfelt suggestions for a sense of centeredness, calm and quiet.
Fear is the opposite of rational thought. When we are in a fearful state of mind our thoughts have a tendency to gallop away without us.
- Consciously break your thought pattern. Get up and move around, find a distraction, take a deep breath.
- Try to put your fears into perspective. Try to think about what the absolute worst-case scenario might be and realize how unlikely it would happen. There is also an interesting Buddhist website that explains and defines the types of fear as being either healthy or unhealthy. Understanding the difference is key.
- If possible, find someone who has a sympathetic and compassionate ear. Avoid people who may be judgmental, try to ‘fix your problem’ or create feelings of guilt.
- Do a crossword puzzle. It utilizes the prefrontal cortex of the brain which stimulates memory and organization. Watching Desperate Housewives doesn’t banish those negative and stressful thoughts.